I've been meaning to write a post of this sort for a while now, but it always gets pushed aside.
The skinny: friendships are HARD
They require so much time, energy, and attention. As a whole, I tend to have a couple that I'm pretty close with and the rest are friends of friends, I keep up with them on Facebook, or something of the sort. Over the course, I've lost a couple good ones. Our lives went different directions or they were lost with boyfriend breakups. We even lost a few when we became parents. Some by choice, some by chance.
But as a whole, we have awesome friends!
I'm terrible at texting and [especially] calling my friends. The most communication you usually get from me is a liked Facebook status [so sad, but true]. In fact most of my friends text me husband if they actually want me to know something, because I'm that bad at responding! I usually see it, but I'm not able to reply at that second, so I put it down and always intend to do it later. And our schedules get so busy that sometimes it's hard to connect, especially with out of town friends! [Hi Jen, Melanie, Sarah, Krisin!]
Thankfully, my friends understand me and know that I'm not ignoring them. Most of them just make fun of my fault. I don't know what I would do without my maintenance-free friends; the ones that when we do see each other we just take off like it was yesterday. I love that I have friends I call for fashion help! Friends that I call for marriage advice. Friends that I call when I need a 'night off.' And friends that I call when I have kid crisis!
Many are 'couple' friends so when we're together the guys drift off to one area to catch up while the girls chat in another room. I love these friendships because I like the guys that Adam is with and it's fun to catch up with them, but I totally connect with the girls. Plus it's always to have a girls night or a guys night, but we really enjoy hanging out as big groups.
We have our friends from our past [high school, college, home towns, & previous jobs], our Ankeny friends, our Lake friends, and the random friends we've met along the way. I can't wait to add our kid's friends parents and neighborhood friends to the list. We're very much a more the merrier kind of family.
Friendships are hard, but they are oh, so rewarding! We're so blessed to have such awesome friends to call for anything and anytime!!